“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce.  You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun.  You never blame the lettuce.

Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person.

But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.

Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.

That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.

If you understand, and you show that you understand,

you can love,

and the situation will change”

-Thich Nhat Hanh

To this fine quote I would like to add that we apply this to ourselves.

We are so often hard so hard on ourselves.

And need to stop blaming ourselves and practice understanding...

easy to say right?